Wednesday, 26 January 2011

Guest review: Susan Maushart's book "Wifework"

author: Stilltorik

Today, it won't be your usual writer. As a special blog consultant (and also as the one who has the chance to share his life with our enthusiastic blogger), I've been asked to write something about a book I've recently read, Wifework, by Susan Maushart.

I've always been a feminist at heart, and started to read a few books on the subject. But more often than not, books are either too academic and cryptic, or too engaged, which unfortunately usually means biased. As a scientist, I just don't understand the crypticness (some might call it theory) of academic books, and I really don't like biased arguments, regardless of the energy the author might have.

Wifework, well... lies somewhere in between. It tries to have an academic rigour without being too cryptic, even though it has a clear position on the subject. The book starts with a very cynical and controversial stance: men in marriage are useless, and women have no reason whatsoever to marry, as they have everything to lose and nothing to gain. But I think what she's really trying to say here is that marriage nowadays is completely unfair to women, and things HAVE to change.

Initially, I must admit I was very sceptical: "Come on, she's overdoing it". And to a certain extent, she is. But then, she illustrates her point throughout the book with very valid arguments and gives examples where women (and men) will recognize themselves, and realise how deep-rooted the wife's and husband's traditional roles are, and how we still reproduce the roles our parents and grandparents had, even when we think of ourselves as a modern couple.

Overall, this has been a very interesting and enlightening book. When my partner first read it, she was very disillusioned with marriage and the concept of the couple in general. It took a few weeks before she would have faith in them again. But I think it changed us both, and certainly made us realise how much of an effort we still need to make to be able to call ourselves "a fair couple".

Tuesday, 25 January 2011

Masturbation in Cinemas now!!!!

Yay, what a catchy title. I'm quite pleased with myself. If you actually thought I'd write about anything other than masturbation on cinema screens, I, like, totally fooled you! Because all I was going to say is:

-According to my ... uhm ... research, Natalie Portman's masturbation scene in Black Swan is totally realistic-

Seriously though, further to my post on female orgasm How do women orgasm, the scene where Portman starts masturbating in bed (before she discovers her mum is in the room), is a highlight in the history of the depiction of female masturbation. In fact, I've not seen any better depictions than that.

Oh and now if you're going to ask that annoying question again, "but why is it not like that in the porn I watch?", I had an exceptionally witty reply all ready to go:

-go fuck yourself. Literally-

But then I thought again and decided to go for my old "I guess I must be wrong then, right?" ;-P

Wednesday, 12 January 2011

Hello China!

Yay, my blog had its first reader in China today! Welcome!

Tuesday, 11 January 2011

Wetlands (Feuchtgebiete)

I read a laugh-out-loud funny book over the weekend called Wetlands. It's Charlotte Roche's take on female sexuality and hygiene. Read it, seriously, it's delightful.

Parental leave, or: the pinnacle of injustice

The Yuppie of today can shop around for countries (and employers) with the best parental leave arrangements. I had a bit of a look around the internet today and saw that there are countries where men get ZERO paid parental leave. Very few countries today offer men the same amount of paid parental leave as women.

I think men should get the same amount of parental leave as women. If I had children, not only would I want to be able to have some paid parental leave, but I'd also like my partner to be able to take the same amount of time off. I think that if it's always the woman who stays home, that's exactly how imbalances in childcare arrangements fall into place. Why should women be the primary carer?